Do Good;Feel Good

As I was struggling to get into the Christmas spirit and frankly disappointed in humanity as of late with all of the tragedy that has occurred over the last year(s) I was reminded by a woman that good people, kind people, do still exist in our world. She came into BWW with her son the other day, just an ordinary woman, having an ordinary lunch, nothing special at all when she approached me at the front cashier stand—I was training a new server who was waiting on them under my name and at first I was worried something was wrong with their meal. Boy was I surprised when she came to ask me if it would be possible to combine her check with another tables check so she could pay for their meal. I told her I would be happy to help and it’s something I’ve seen before (a pay-it-forward moment) and when she pointed to the table with four military persons at it, I smiled and assured her I would combined the checks. But then she said, “Do you see any other military men/women in here? Oh yes, him, and that table over there, and I think I see one in the bar area. Can you put them all on my check please? I want to buy their meals to thank them for Christmas.”

I was taken back. This woman, this simply dressed, ordinary woman, wanted to pick up the tabs of not just one table, but five tables, 14 military men and women, in my restaurant. I wanted to hug her and cry. All I could manage to come out with was a “yes, yes absolutely, you are so amazing…” And she just smiled and said, “It’s the least I can do…”

The bill ended up being $157,00 and she paid it graciously and went as far as tipping the other three servers on the individual tables and myself $20 each and handed my trainee $10 for her service. She walked around to all of the tables and individually thanked each and every one of them, wished them a Merry Christmas, and didn’t mention a thing about the bill she just paid.

When one of the tables asked for the check I informed them it had been taken care of and when they inquired about who had paid for them I told them she had already been by their table. They were as astounded as I was, touched by her generosity. It was truly a magical moment and one that really put things in perspective.

This woman inspires me…and I can’t wait until I can do something that amazing. However it got me thinking of things I can do now…little things that have a big impact on others/the world.

Here is a list of 10 Do Good-Feel Good charitable things that you can get involved in today:

1: Compassion International—sponsoring a child in a 3rd world country. Yes, there are other organizations available, but this was the one that I found was truly a beneficial non-profit doing real good in the lives of the children they help. It is $40/month and 100% of it goes to the child you are sponsoring. You can write letters back and forth, receive updates on their health, schooling, family and such, and send extra presents for holidays and birthdays i.e. Toys, shoes, clothes, books ect.
I have been sponsoring my little man since my senior year of high school and it has been amazing. I hope to go to Haiti and meet him in person some day. Click the link below to check it out!
Sponsor A Child

2: TOMS—love shoes like I do? This is an amazing company that does a one-for-one operation. For every pair of shoes they sell they donate a pair to a child around the world who doesn’t have any shoes. They are comfortable and affordable and just an honest to goodness good thing. I personally can’t get enough of them…I’m up to 5 pairs and I want more! They have also recently added glasses to their program—for every pair they sell they give a pair to a child in need of glasses to see. Check them out here TOMS

3: Pet Adoption— as you read in my last post my little bro [C] adopted a kitten for me for Christmas… and she is the best, sweetest thing ever. I can’t imagine my life without her now, and to think that she was abandoned and helpless in a shelter breaks my heart. [C] went home to Iowa and actually checked out the shelter in his town and rescued a dog, Radar, for his girlfriend [Sam] for Christmas. I got to meet him while I was back for the holidays and he is so adorable and loving. He is a little over 2-years old and was found abandoned and abused by his previous owners. He was in pretty bad shape but luckily he is doing fine now. They have welcomed him in and he is the newest member of the [Styron wolf pack]…including Vince, Moe, Duke ([C] and [Sam]’s other dog) and now Radar.
Rescuing an animal is so wonderful and the gift that keeps on giving. So next time your on the market for a pet, check out your local shelters first…because I guarantee you’ll find a little nugget who wants/needs you love and will give it right back.


Radar and Moe at Christmas- he fit right in :)

4: Donating to Goodwill—a fairly simple and quick act of kindness. Not only are you getting rid of those things you don’t need and cleansing your home of excess, you are giving to an organization that makes it possible for people to shop within their means.

5: Pay-it-forward acts such as buying the food/coffee/groceries/gas for person behind you in line. You never know when you can make someone’s day by simply buying his or her Starbucks.

6: Leave an extra large tip for your server—now I know you’re thinking I’m just suggesting this because I serve, but I’m not…. At least I’m not saying it for me. It is just one of those things that can change a person’s life and they will remember and pay-it-forward. And trust me, it’ll come back to you when you need it as well.

7: Shop Local—this may not seem like a “charitable” act but trust me it’s important. Not only can you find some of the best things in local shops/restaurants/farmers markets/ect. but you are simultaneously simulating the economy in your town/city. We all know the economy can use all the help it can get right now, and that is especially true for small businesses. So stay local and help out your hometown people.

8: Volunteer—ANYWHERE. Local food bank, hospital, schools, Salvation Army, churches and the list goes on and on. Even if it’s only for a few hours these places thrive off of volunteer work. Every little bit helps and I promise you once you find the place you enjoy, you will go back time and time again. The few hours won’t feel like enough.
                                          Do good-feel good. 

9: Mentor/Tutor— If you have a gift with kids and/or have a really big brain full of knowledge I believe you need to use it. There are some great programs like Big Brothers, Big Sisters, Boys and Girls Club and many, many after-school programs at your local schools and churches. Not only can they learn from you but also I know you will learn from them. Plus, staying involved with young people keeps your spirit young as well—and who doesn’t love a good game of kickball?

10: Be Kind—It’s a simple request sure, but on those days you just really want to kick and scream at everyone remember this mantra… “Kill ‘em with Kindness”. It has gotten me through some very long days/nights with people and I felt better when it was all said and done. Not even just being kind to those you don’t feel like being nice to, but to everyone in general. Smile at a stranger as you pass them on the sidewalk, say please/thank you to everyone, treat everyone with respect and don’t judge others—you never know what their day/week/month or year has been like. Kindness doesn’t need to be a grand gesture or a thought out plan… random acts of kindness are some of the most precious little moments in ones life.
Gandalf: Saruman believes it is only great power that can hold evil in check, but that   is not what I have found. I found it is the small everyday deeds of ordinary folk that keep the darkness at bay… small acts of kindness and love. Why Bilbo Baggins? That’s because I am afraid and it gives me courage.”
>> as soon as I heard this quote during The Hobbit it struck a cord with me.

*I know this is an extremely long post but I felt I needed to share it. If we all do one good deed a day I believe 2013 can change the world for the better. We definitely need to do something to balance out the evils of 2012.

Don’t forget to count your blessings, hug your loved ones, and always leave with “I love you”.



~ by CAS on December 29, 2012.

One Response to “Do Good;Feel Good”

  1. I agree with you. It also makes you feel better as well. If only there were more like you! Anyway, thanks

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